Keeping a Clean Slate (a good reputation)

by Marc Segar, Adapted by Autism Spectrum Directory

– Whenever we go into a completely new environment and no-one knows us yet, we start off with an undamaged reputation, that is a clean slate.

– It is largely by breaking the unwritten rules of society that people dirty their slates (damage their reputation).

– Everyone tries to keep a mental note of everyone else’s slate (reputation) in their little group. This includes things people have said, things they have done, things they can and cannot do and the general way in which they come across.

– It is mostly on the basis of your slate (reputation) that people will be able to make fun of you.

– If your reputation is already damaged, don’t despair; it is often a reversible process and if you are patient by ceasing to do anything wrong it should slowly improve.

– Try not to tell someone too much about yourself or any of your weaknesses unless you have got to know them quite well because knowledge is power. This does not mean you have to bottle things up. (see ‘how not to worry’)

– By listening to conversations, you can learn about other peoples reputations.

– Some people like to stand out. People who stand out but who cannot keep to the unwritten rules while doing so, can very easily make themselves into a target for other people’s teasing or neglect.

– Making a scene of ones self is also an easy way to become a target; but if you are on the autism spectrum then it is often very difficult to know exactly what this means.

  • Making a scene of yourself is normally about doing things in public which makes you look different to everyone else (being the odd one out).
  • People who are able to stand out and be popular at the same time are said to have charisma. This is a gift which some people have but not others and it can often involve having a very accurate understanding of what is going on around you. It is popular belief that you can only have charisma if you were born that way but in the case of an autism spectrum disorder this statement is not applicable.
  • It is usually better to stand out from the inside (having good character, being honest or moral) than on the outside (acting differently than others around you).

Copyright Marc Segar

Other Resources

Bible Verse: Proverbs 22:1

A good name is more desirable than great wealth. Respect is better than silver or gold.

Article: How to Keep Your Good Reputation

Book: God’s Plan for Building a Good Reputation

Book: The Measure of a Man and Unabridged Audiobook CD

Book: The Measure of a Woman

Book: How to Lose a Good Reputation

Book: The Future of Reputation: Gossip, Rumor, and Privacy on the Internet and Kindle Edition

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Complete List of All Articles on Autism Spectrum Directory


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