How to Overcome Worrying and Anxiety

by Marc Segar

– One thing people on the autism spectrum are often particularly good at is worrying
– A lot of your efforts in life might be getting a very poor pay-off and you might be finding that everyone around you is speaking freely to each other in a way which seems like nonsense to you.
– If you try to join in by talking back in nonsense people get annoyed.
– If other people can complain about you speaking nonsense why can’t you complain to them about their nonsense? It’s just not fair. Are you annoyed? If you are, you have every right to be but you cannot change the way things are.
– The problem with worrying is that it will often distract you from what you need to be concentrating on if you are to solve the problem.
– With some problems seeing the funny side can make it easier. If you can learn to laugh at yourself many of your worries might go away.
– Many people keep all their problems bottled up inside and look as if they’re on top of the world but many people need to talk about their problems. The trick is to talk to the right people and not the wrong ones.
– Don’t talk about your problems in public or to people who you don’t know (except counsellors). If you do you will be broadcasting your weaknesses to the people around you. Don’t think they won’t be listening.
– Talking about your problems in public may get sympathy in the short term but will probably isolate you in the long term.
– You may talk about your problems with teachers, parents, close relatives and sometimes with friends if you can get them on their own.
– Sometimes but not always it is alright to talk about your problems with friends in a small group but it should be relevant to the conversation.
– When you do talk about your problems, try to do it without putting yourself down too much. Negative talk causes you negative feelings and negative feelings make you less able to defend yourself. You don’t want to get bogged down into a vicious cycle.
– With reference to this last statement, try to get into a positive cycle if you can. This is called PMA (positive mental attitude) whereby thinking about your positive assets makes you feel more positive about yourself and better able to defend yourself from put-downs.
– Some times you may get labelled by people as useless or ignorant. This might be because you are not getting the opportunity to show any intelligence. NOT because it is true.
– A horrible feeling having to deal with is guilt. If you think you are to blame for something you must ask yourself if you know that you were doing something wrong. If you didn’t know, or you only had a vague feeling about it then you cannot blame yourself, even if other people are. All you can do is to tell yourself that you will try not to do it again.
– Often apologising to someone can help to ease the guilt but ONCE is enough. If you over apologise you might start to look shy or vulnerable.
– If you think that the world is pitted against you, this is an illusion. Also, everyone feels like this occasionally.
Personal development can be a slow and difficult process.
– Another problem you might face is that achieving things by half does not feel like enough. You may be an all or nothing person but remember this might be the autism/aspergers speaking.
– Remember the key word is DETERMINATION and if you know in your heart you can do something then you must go for it.

Copyright Marc Segar

Other Resources

Bible Verse: Matthew 6:31-33
“Don’t ever worry and say, ‘What are we going to eat?’ or ‘What are we going to drink?’ or ‘What are we going to wear?’ Everyone is concerned about these things, and your heavenly Father [God] certainly knows you need all of them. But first, be concerned about his kingdom and what has his approval. Then all these things will be provided for you.

Bible Verse: Matthew 6:34
“So don’t ever worry about tomorrow. After all, tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

Bible Verse: Philippians 4:6
Never worry about anything. But in every situation let God know what you need in prayers and requests while giving thanks.

Bible Verse: 1 Peter 5:7
Turn all your anxiety over to God because he cares for you.

Book: Freedom from Fear: Overcoming Worry and Anxiety and Kindle Edition

Book: Exploring Feelings: Anxiety: Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to Manage Anxiety

Book: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living and Unabridged Audio CD

Book: 10 Simple Solutions to Worry: How to Calm Your Mind, Relax Your Body & Reclaim Your Life

Book: Running Scared: Fear, Worry & the God of Rest and Kindle Edition

Book: Little Ways to Keep Calm and Carry on: Twenty Lessons for Managing Worry, Anxiety, and Fear

Book: Worry: Controlling and Using It

Book: The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You and Abridged CD

Book: What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety

Book: When My Worries Get Too Big! A Relaxation Book for Children Who Live with Anxiety

Book: Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Powerful, Practical Solutions to Overcome Your Child’s Fears, Worries, and Phobias

Book: The Anxiety Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal With Anxiety & Worry and Kindle Edition

Book: Quiet Your Mind: An Easy-to-Use Guide to Ending Chronic Worry and Negative Thoughts and Living a Calmer Life and Kindle Edition

Book: Women Who Worry Too Much: How to Stop Worry & Anxiety from Ruining Relationships, Work, & Fun

Book: Is a Worry Worrying You?

Book: Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety: Becoming A Woman of Faith and Confidence and Kindle Edition

Book: The Worry Trap: How to Free Yourself from Worry & Anxiety using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Book: Mastery of Your Anxiety and Worry: Workbook

Book: One Less Thing to Worry About: Uncommon Wisdom for Coping with Common Anxieties and Kindle Edition and Unabridged Audiobook CD

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